As survivors of such a tragic and painful experience, it is important to know that you are not alone in your journey of healing and recovery. Here are some valuable resources that can provide support and guidance during this difficult time:

Websites:

1.   My Grief Connection is a hub of grief resources. MGC was founded by Sara Cobb after she lost her brother and his fiancée to the tragedy of murder-suicide in 2019.

2. Grief.com offers education, information and other helpful resources for anyone dealing with death or grief.

3.  .AFSP The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention offers resources and support for those who have lost a loved one to suicide, including resources specifically for survivors of murder-suicide.

Books:

1. Blood: A Memoir - By Allison Moorer
   Mobile, Alabama, 1986. A fourteen-year-old girl is awakened by the unmistakable sound of gunfire. On the front lawn, her father has shot and killed her mother before turning the gun on himself. Allison Moorer would grow up to be an award-winning musician, with her songs likened to "a Southern accent: eight miles an hour, deliberate, and very dangerous to underestimate" (Rolling Stone). But that moment, which forever altered her own life and that of her older sister, Shelby, has never been far from her thoughts. Now, in her journey to understand the unthinkable, to parse the unknowable, Allison uses her lyrical storytelling powers to lay bare the memories and impressions that make a family, and that tear a family apart. Blood delves into the meaning of inheritance and destiny, shame and
   trauma -- and how it is possible to carve out a safe place in the world despite it all. With a foreword by Allison's sister,
   ​Grammy winner Shelby Lynne, Blood reads like an intimate journal: vivid, haunting, and ultimately life-affirming.

2.  Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief - By David Kessler
   In this book, Kessler gives readers a roadmap to remembering those who have died with more love than pain; he shows us how to
   move forward in a way that honors our loved ones. 

3. It's OK That You're Not OK - By Megan Devine
   With It’s OK That You’re Not OK, Megan Devine offers a profound new approach to both the experience of grief and the way we help
   others who have endured tragedy. Having experienced grief from both sides—as both a therapist and as a woman who witnessed the
   accidental drowning of her beloved partner-- Megan writes with deep insight about the unspoken truths of loss, love, and healing.
   She debunks the culturally prescribed goal of returning to a normal, "happy" life, replacing it with a far healthier middle path, one
   ​that invites us to build a life alongside grief rather than seeking to overcome it.​

4. The Perversion of Virtue: Understanding Murder-Suicide In The Perversion of Virtue, leading suicide researcher Thomas Joiner explores the nature of murder-suicide and offers a unique new theory to explain this nearly unexplainable act: that murder-suicides always involve the wrongheaded invocation of one of four interpersonal virtues: mercy, justice, duty, and glory. The parent who murders his child and then himself seeks to save his child from a fatherless life of hardship; the wife who murders her husband and then herself seeks to right the wrongs he committed against her, and so on. Murder-suicides involve the gross misperception of when and how these four virtues should be applied.

Remember, healing is a journey, and it's important to be patient and kind to yourself as you navigate through this difficult time. Reach out for support when you need it and know that there are resources available to help you on your path to healing and finding hope once again.

We are happy to provide more resources catered to your individual journey upon request.